Can You Keep a Secret Baby?
Whenever my three year old Lovely can see that I'm in pain from this pregnancy she tells me she will take me to the doctor so he can lift my shirt up and take the baby out. Wouldn't that be nice?
Tonight as we were snuggling in our usual hangout, the couch, she confided in me her secret fears. "I don't want the doctor to cut your tummy Mommy," she said, "I don't want a big, big hole in your tummy." I almost cried! I had no idea she had thought things through that far!
I reassured her that the doctor wasn't going to cut my tummy but I didn't explain exactly how the baby would be coming out. Not because I didn't think she could handle the information but because I don't want her announcing it to everyone we meet. As it is every friend and stranger we talk to finds out more about this baby we are having than they really need to know. Really.
In other news...
Is it ever ok for a husband to come home with a snow mobile without discussing it with his wife first?
And if he does discuss it with his wife and she says no, they don't need a snow mobile, then does that make it ok for him to go buy one anyway?
And if he makes an embarrassing call to your midwife for you and then a special trip into town to pick up the prescription after he worked all night does that make him some kind of knight in shining armor so you can't be mad about the snowmobile that he's hiding in the back of his truck? The one the kids have seen but no one is saying a word to you about?
Just checking.
Remember that new van I wanted?
I've heard of women who go out and make big purchases, like new cars, without talking to their husbands about it first. I wonder what drives them to it?
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Labels: Baby Notes, The Weird Family
posted by The Lazy Organizer @ 10:10 PM
17 Comments
17 Comments:
Poor Lovely - what an image!
No, I don't think it's right about the snowmobile. I'd make him get his money back!
Oh dear, I am reminded about our first year of marriage.... my husband "NEEDS" computer stuff..... he wanted a new top of the line scanner,copier, printer.... at only $1100.00 ..... we I told him we needed to discuss it more and look at the budget.... "but we can get it for just $25 a week" he says.... we look at the budget (that was very, very tight at the time with only me working and him in school) and I said ... " we just cannot swing it .... maybe in a few months.... the next week he comes back with can we please talk about this again.... just as I walk in and find it on our bed!!! UGHHHH..... I did not make him get rid of it, send it back or anything.... we worked it out somehow.... BUT to this day..... 11 years later..... he still has that poor printer.... I WON'T let him get rid of it!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
How freaked will you be if you have to have a c-section now?
Sorry for laughing, but that's hilarious. I say go shopping for a van.
Good luck with that all.
If your husband is like mine, he has probably gone without any personal hobbies since you've been married. After the kids started coming, I would assume he lost all hope of ever getting a hobby. He probably has a small savings account that he has put .10ยข a month in for the last 10 years for that special day. I'm not sure but from reading your blog and with his name, it seems like he is working all the time and drives a little ole junky truck and never gets new clothing all done for the good of his family. I hate to not be on your side during the end of your pregnancy but, give him a break! It was probably an old used snowmobile that he got a real super deal on. Have a nice day.
Love Chrissy.
p.s. I hope I win those baggie things...
Wishing you well on your big delivery... kids are such a blessing!!! Enjoy... you actually might forget about the "little purchase"... best wishes!
Good luck with delivery! Aren't kids great, we are working on being polite with both of ours. They both just say it if they think something is gross, stinky, ugly...and it could be a person...right in front of that person. There was a time that I was grateful for my son's speech problems. He's working through them, and now even strangers can understand him.
LOL - my first husband came home like that with a boat once! He's an ex-husband now, of course...
I hope you go into labor soon! My fingers are crossed for you.
Danelle at Homemaker Barbi
Good luck on your delivery!
i asked that same question about 2 weeks ago during a 'gal's trip' to Newport... i saw a beautiful ring i wanted wanted wanted... but not being something we needed, i passed it up...
My hubbie makes the only money... so he would have bought the snow mobile.
What a sweetheart! Lovey that is...not Stranger.
My Aunt and Uncle try to out-do each other with such purchases. It's very sad. I say give him the mildly hurt/disappointed look and milk it for all it's worth.
Um...have you read this classified ad? Leave it out for hubby to find.
http://deseretnews.com/dn/view/0,1249,645199496,00.html
I have a snowmobile in my garage that arrived much the same way yours did.
Good luck with the baby!
I joke that the only reason I got pregnant with our second child is because my husband bought a car and called me to say "would you be mad if I were signing the papers right now?" Umm...I wasn't mad, but he knew that what I really wanted I wasn't able to go out and just buy. Although I guess I could've if I REALLY wanted to! Sometimes it works out if we remind them of the things they did that they shouldn't!
On your due date I just wanted to stop by and say good luck. I had three of my four kids late, so I know that date doesn't mean much, but I know how stressful and long these last days are.
Here's to a healthy birth!
Be sure to post photos of that new van when you pick it up. I can't wait to see it :)
I think I would hit the roof if my husband bought a snowmobile against my express consent. Unless, of course, it made it possible for me to justify a few little purchases of my own. I've always wanted to have a skylight installed in my kitchen...
Well, here's an old-fashioned opinion. I was a SAHM and now a SAHW and my husband worked long hours to make that possible. When we finally got in a financial position to afford a luxury or two, I always felt he worked hard for his money and had a right to spend it how he saw fit, so long as it was taking away from family essentials - mortgage, utilities, food, etc. If he spent "extra" money, I see nothing wrong with it at all.
oops - I mean WASN'T taking away from family essentials! Duh!
Essentially, Stranger broke your trust by not respecting you and he essentially demonstrated that your joint budgeting meant nothing, and asking you was insincere. Furthermore, he's been encouraging your kids to lie to you/withold information. I would be hopping mad myself.
I think it's important to tell him how you feel about being disregarded like that. I think it's also important to acknowledge how wonderful he has been lately in other ways, and that he deserves something special, but that getting something special shouldn't involve the insulting things above. Don't tie it to the van thing. Yes, you've been good about not getting the thing you want but don't need, but "get back at him" or "make it even" just makes both people mad instead of one person.
Even if he keeps it, it's important for him to know how it made you feel.
Of course, this is all rather a week late and somewhat moot with the imminant new arrival.
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